Understand that there is nothing wrong with thinking about sex. It's entirely natural, and everyone does it. Biologically speaking, it is next to impossible to stop thinking about sex completely,
as your body instinctively drives to reproduce. However, it's possible
for that urge to become more like background noise as you go through
your everyday life.
Know your triggers.
Sex is not always the topic that gets you thinking about sex. Sometimes
pure boredom with life begins an automated response that looks for
entertainment, and eventually leads to thinking about sex. There are a
number of triggers. If you can identify your triggers, you can limit
their capacity to veer you into thinking about sex. Stress is a huge
trigger for sex, and thinking about sex
.Develop your willpower.
If you truly want to stop thinking about sex, you need to make a
commitment to yourself and stick with it. At a minimum, you should make a
goal to curb your sexual thoughts so that they don't distract you from
your other daily activities, such as work or school. If you need help
remembering your commitment, wear a piece of jewelry or a simple string
around your wrist that will remind you to power through the temptation
to get lost in thought
.Sublimate your urges.
Sublimation, or sexual transmutation, occurs when you translate your
sex drive into creative energy. Take the time you'd usually spend
thinking about sex and instead devote it to a creative hobby, such as
writing, painting, sculpting, or playing music. If it's something you
really enjoy, it can provide you with an alternate avenue for catharsis
and satisfaction.
Distract yourself with other activities.
If you're not in a place where you can do a creative hobby, try
exercising. If you're working out hard enough, you shouldn't be able to
focus on much of anything. Alternatively, get lost in an engrossing book
or movie, or take up a team sport. While outside activities are
probably not going to get thoughts about sex completely off your mind,
it will help to facilitate other thoughts outside of sex.
Don't leave too much idle time in your schedule.
Everyone needs time to relax, but finding yourself with hours of time
on your hands might lead to backsliding. Schedule your day full with
events and activities to better yourself. Leave a bit of time at the end
of the day for reflection and relaxation, but not so much that you'll
get bore
Tell someone about your problem.
As terrifying as this may sound, it is one of the most powerful and
effective approaches. If you are lucky enough to know someone who is not
judgmental and will understand and appreciate your goal (and forgive
you, if the circumstances warrant), talk to them at least once a day
about how you are doing. Have a frank conversation any time you feel
compelled to think or act in ways you would rather not. It is surprising
how much less compelling these thoughts appear when brought into the
light of day, and how much less powerful.
