10 Sex Tips Every Girls should Know

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  1. Whether your sex life has fallen by the wayside of late or you're slipped into a dull and passionless routine, brush up on your sexual prowess in the bedroom with these 10 mind-blowing tips from relationship expert and sex dynamo, Tracey Cox...

If you want to be a demon in the sack you need to put all of those body concerns straight to the back of your mind. Tracey Cox sums it up in the following: "A billion studies have shown body self-conscious women are more timid and less likely to initiate sex, try new positions or talk about their needs than women who are happy with their butt - I mean lot. The truth is, men don't look at it and think 'porridge', they think 'let me get my hands on that'." So stop worrying about that Kit Kat you ate at lunch and start focussing on the rampant sex kitten that seduced him into the bedroom in the first place - you.

2. The warm-up



It's not just us women who like to be stroked, massaged and played with, men love it too and it's a great way of connecting with your other half. A head massage is a good place to start and easy to do, no matter what your level of experience. Think of how your hairdresser massages your head at the salon and spread your fingers on his scalp using the pads to firmly rub the head in circular movements so that the scalp moves in response. Massaging is also a great way of initiating sex if you're not used to coming straight out and asking for it, so let your hands do the talking and he'll soon get the message
.3. Foreplay
It's nothing new that men love getting blow jobs, but did you know that if men had to live without sex or foreplay for the rest of their lives, most men would give up sex? So now you know how key a bit of fellatio is to pleasing a man, here are a few tips to keep you on track. For starters, don't just head straight down there, tease him. Kiss and lick his chest, stomach and the inside of his thighs. While you're at it let plenty of saliva build up in your mouth (gross but very necessary for plenty of lubrication). Then, make an 'O' shape with your mouth and slide your lips (not teeth!) over his penis slowly and firmly moving back and forth. Use a hand to hold the shaft and follow your mouth and incorporate some tongue swirlings to really make an impression. Keep the pace even to let the excitement build and when he's about to climax increase the speed and pressure.
 4. Talk dirty
If even the thought of talking dirty is making you cringe it's time to get serious about the benefits this surprisingly easy trick will have on your sex life. As well as being a great - and subtle - way of telling your man exactly what you want in bed it will drive him crazy so it really is a win-win situation. If you really can't bear to open your mouth in bed try texting him. A simple, "My fingers are doing what I want yours to do to me later," will build plenty of sexual tension and have him standing to attention ready for you when you get home.
 5. It's in his kiss
As we grow up and out of adolescence kissing becomes less of a big deal and more of a formality. Done right though, kissing can work wonders and some people even claim that they can orgasm by kissing alone, not surprising when you think about the amount of nerve endings in the mouth. Reignite your love of a good snogging session by starting off with light, fluttery kisses on his lips. Move on to the neck, repeating the light kisses before taking things up a notch and lightly - lightly - nibbling his bottom lip and sucking it gently. Repeat with the top lip before moving into traditional lip-locking kissing, alternating the pressure. Increase the tempo with a tiny moan/sigh of pleasure and he'll be eating out of your hand before you know it
6. Striptease
Lock all of those nagging thoughts about feeling/looking stupid away, this is your time to shine and we can guarantee he'll love you forever if you follow these simple golden stripping rules from Tracey. "Stripping is all about showing off your body, not hiding it. It really doesn't matter whether you'd put a supermodel to shame or make the local vicar's wife look good, sexy is all about how you feel. During the entire performance, parade around, walk up and down, flirt, flick your hair around, gyrate your body. Touch yourself the way he wants to touch you, in places he wants to touch and you'll have him eating out of your hand."
  7. Take it outside
Men like doing naughty things and they like having sex in naughty, forbidden places. Why? Because it reminds them of adolescence and it adds an element of danger and getting caught into the equation. Try taking him for a walk or going for a drive to a secluded spot before getting down to business or, if the thought of someone seeing just stresses you out too much go at it in a friend's bathroom at a party, less risky but still takes you and him out of your comfort zone.
 8. Get kinky
No I'm not talking about leather, crazy swings and inflicting pain (unless you want to, then that's fine). Kinky doesn't have to mean whips and chains, it covers a broad spectrum of fun stuff from role-playing to a little gentle spanking. If you're shy, Tracey's advice is to start off using the simple and seemingly innocent looking blindfold. "Blindfold him, lead him into the bedroom, tie his hands behind his back, and get him to lie on the bed. Now, take him to the brink of orgasm and back again, time and time again. Kiss him. Rub your breasts against his chest, lower yourself over him, let him smell you then lift off again. Later, lower yourself on to his manhood and let him penetrate, then climb off almost immediately. Follow that with the best snog he's ever had, but no body contact."
 9. Get hands on
Using your hands to drive him crazy fell by the wayside as soon as we discovered oral and full-on sex and these days, giving him a hand job is probably way down the bottom of your to-do list. Re-learning the art of using your hands will not only conjure up memories of school days, it will feel amazing too. Just remember to keep plenty of lube within reach for the ultimate hand job that will blow his mind
 10. Perfecting your signature sex move
If you want to really be at the top of your game when it comes to sex, you need to be remembered for a signature move, something which you're truly amazing at and always has him begging for more. Whether its oral sex or your incredibly strong thighs a signature move will give you tons of bedroom confidence and keep your sex life alive.